We live in a culture built around monogamy—the unspoken assumption that romantic and sexual fulfillment must come from a single partner at a time. Yet for many people, love and connection feel more expansive than a one‑onto‑one model allows. If you identify as polyamorous, ethically non‑monogamous (ENM), swinging, relationship‑anarchist, or simply curious about consensual non‑monogamy (CNM), you may have felt misunderstood, judged as “too complicated,” or pigeonholed by partners, friends, or even other queer communities.
At Out Couch Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy, we take an affirmative, nonjudgmental approach to CNM/ENM. Whether you’re:
- Struggling to articulate your needs and boundaries in multiple partnerships
- Wrestling with feelings of jealousy, shame, or insecurity when your partner loves someone else
- Navigating how to talk about your relationship style with family, therapists, or colleagues who assume monogamy
- Wondering if your capacity for multiple loving connections makes you untrustworthy or unable to commit
- Feeling isolated because you don’t see your relationship structure reflected in mainstream media or mental‑health resources
You deserve a space where your desires and values are honored, not pathologized.
Some of the questions we help clients explore include:
- How do I develop clear, compassionate boundaries across more than one partnership?
- In what ways does internalized mononormativity show up in my jealousy or insecurity?
- How can I build honest, resilient communication habits so everyone feels respected and heard?
- What parts of my past relationships or family dynamics influence my approaches to openness and trust?
- How do I honor each partner’s needs without losing my own sense of self or autonomy?
- Where do I find community and support when most relationship advice centers on two‑person dyads?
Consensual non‑monogamy isn’t just about having multiple partners—it’s about creating ethical, attuned ways of relating that fit who you truly are. If you’re ready to explore a more expansive, authentic relationship life, we’re here to help you navigate the challenges and celebrate the unique joys of CNM/ENM.
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