Are you feeling out of place in a world focused on sex & romance? Our culture is filled with biased toward sexual and romantic relationships. You might have been told—incorrectly—that your asexual or aromantic identity is due to trauma, hormones, or attachment issues.
But the truth is, your identity is a natural and valid part of the sexuality and romantic spectrums.
Even within the asexual and aromantic spectrums, your experience is unique:
- If you’re both asexual and aromantic, you may have little to no interest in sexual or romantic relationships—but in a society that doesn’t recognize this, it can feel isolating.
- If you’re demisexual or demiromantic, you might only feel attraction after forming a deep emotional bond. In a world that prioritizes casual dating and romance-first narratives, finding connection can be frustrating.
- If you identify as greysexual, you may experience attraction rarely or at low intensity—whether fluid or constant.
- If you’re alloromantic but asexual, dating may be complicated, especially when many relationships assume sexual attraction is a requirement.
If you’re on the asexual or aromantic spectrum
you may feel like you don’t fit into the relationship norms society promotes. This can make it harder to:
- Find dating spaces and partners that align with your needs.
- Create safety in relationships when many people equate intimacy with sexuality
- Navigate relationships with allosexual partners, especially in a world that prioritizes sex.
- Create connections that feel fulfilling, whether romantic, platonic, or something in between.
With so many messages about how you’re “supposed” to feel
you might struggle with shame or feel like something is missing. But nothing is wrong with you. Affirmative psychoanalytic psychotherapy can help you unpack and challenge internalized beliefs, so you can:
- Embrace your identity with confidence.
- Build stronger platonic relationships and expand your social support.
- Define fulfillment on your own terms—in friendships, dating, or chosen family.
There’s no wrong way to build the relationships that work for you—as long as they’re based on honesty and consent. Your identity is valid. Your experiences matter. You deserve connection and understanding.
