Having desire or attraction to more than one sex, gender, or gender expression in a world that wants to keep things overly simplistic is difficult.
It can be even more complicated when romantic desire and sexual desire don’t line up. For example, someone who is sexually attracted to men and masculinity, but romantically attracted to women and femininity.
Biphobia is rampant not only in heterosexual communities, but within gay and lesbian communities as well. Sadly, gay and lesbian communities are not always welcoming to their bisexual, pansexual, polysexual, queer, or other non-monosexual members. This can cause some people to feel like they need to hide parts of who they are in order to stay engaged in non-heterosexual spaces.
It can feel like there isn’t a good place of visibility for bisexual or pansexual people. If they are in a relationship with someone who is a similar sex or gender, then often they are labeled as gay or lesbian. When they are in a relationship with someone of a different sex or gender, they are labeled as heterosexual. This bisexual erasure can cause immense pain and distress.
Psychotherapy can help you figure out your desires and identity in order to live a more authentic, full, and playful life.
